By Akorede Ajibade
A must read for both parents and children.
One young man went to apply for a Executive position in a big company. He passed the primary interview, and now he would meet the director for the final interview. The director discovered from his CV that his youth’s academic achievements were excellent.
He asked; Did you obtain any scholarships in school…?
The young man answered; “NO”.
Who paid for your school fees…?
“My Parents”; he replied.
“Where did they work”……?”
He said; “They worked as Dry cleaners.”
The director requested the young to show his hands.
The young man showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect.
Then the director asked; “Have you ever helped your parents wash the clothes?”
He replied instantly; “Never! my parents always wanted me to study and read more books”.
Besides, my parents can wash clothes faster than me.
The director said; “I have a request”. When you go home today, go and clean your parent’s hands, and then see me tomorrow morning.
The young man felt miserable.
As soon as he went back home, he asked his parents to let him clean their hands. His parents felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, they showed their hands to their son.
The young man, cleaned their hands slowly, his tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he ever noticed that his parent’s hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in their hands.
Some bruises were so painful that they gasped when he touched it.
This was the first time that young man realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes every day to enable him to pay the school fees.
The bruises in the hands were the price that the parents had to pay for his education, his school activities and his future.
After cleaning his parent’s hands, this young man quietly washed all the remaining clothes for them. That night, the parent’s and the son talked for a very long time.
Next morning, the young man went to the director’s office. The Director noticed the tears in the young man’s eyes, when he asked;
“Now tell me what have you done and what lesson have you gotten yesterday in your house….?”
The young man answered,
“ I cleaned my parent’s hands, and I also finished cleaning all the remaining clothe’s”. He was sour in his voice, he said; ‘I now know what appreciation is’. Without my parents, I would not be who I am today.
Helping my parents now, only now do I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done on your own and I understand the need, to appreciate the importance and value of helping one’s family.
The director said; “This is what I am looking for in a manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life.”
“You are hired.”
A child, who has been protected and consistently given whatever he wanted, would develop an “entitlement mentality” and would always put himself first.
He would be so ignorant of his parent’s efforts.
If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying our children instead…? You can let your child live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch on a big screen TV.
BUT, the “Big BUT”
Times when you are cutting grass, watering the plants, cleaning up the house or after a meal washing the plates and bowls, etc. then please let them experience it together with their brothers and sisters.
It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow grey, same as the parents of that young man.
The thing matter most is that, your child learns how to appreciate the extra efforts and also experience the difficulties and learns the need to work with others to get things done. They will value life, appreciate people and also grow up with a compassionate and loving heart, in which you will benefit from later in future.
Reveal the other side of life to your children and children, teenagers and youths, be open to learning and cultivate the act of appreciation as you grow.