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By JOSEPHINE AITEOBHOR

Falling in love is the best felling one can have. It’s magical, the feeling is unexplainable; you begin to feel like you are in heaven, the way he looks at you, the way she smiles at you its simply magical. Love is a great feeling until responsibility and commitment starts setting in (don’t get me wrong it feels good always with the right person) then one begins to wonder if he right for me, if I go ahead to marry her will I be at peace. There are a lot of broken homes now not because they didn’t love themselves at some point but because they failed to know and understand each other.

A time well spent in courtship is never a wasted time, to our sisters and brothers planning or are already rushing into it hey stop slow down take a chill pill and know your partner. Yes you can fully know a person but trust me you can to some extent. You question is how do I know this person is right for me.

Now my personal opinion if he or she does not share same goals with you with you, then it’s not for you. It’s not normal’s to share all goals or dreams together but to a reasonable extent your partner should see your vision sometimes better than you and support you in all ramification. It’s easier to cohabit with a person who aims and yearn for same thing as you. Life just becomes easier, like the common saying two good heads are better than one most especially when they are following one course. Your values are things you definitely don’t want to negotiate about, but if your partner doses not share same value then you are heading for trouble.

One thing that will always occur in the relationship is issues and task. Now if both partners don’t see things or handle things alike it becomes a problem. You find out one always gets offended over another decisions and actions.

One thing that will always occur in the relationship is issues and task. Now if both partners don’t see things or handle things alike it becomes a problem. You find out one always gets offended over another decisions and actions.

Communication is not just about talking. One can talk without communicate. When communication is poor it is totally impossible for the relationship to grow or to be sustained. Communication is something both partners consciously make effort to keep the communication perfect. When your partner is constantly making such efforts it shows the level of interest and commitment in the relationship and of course you.

Your relations with someone who you are not friends cannot be the happily ever after. Think of that friend of yours whom you have known for years had fights, augment but yet your friendship has stood the test of times it is because as friend you understand and can tolerate your selves. You virtually can say anything and everything to your best friend. If you can apply this to your relationship then it’s sure going to be the right one.

A right partner will always respect you no matter who you are, where you are from or what you do. Heard of the phrase “worships the ground where I walk”?  Respect for your opinion, views, suggestions, wants, feelings. Asides respect, showing appreciation is key, be it I little, large, simple or difficult. If your partner dose all of these then you are in the right relationship with the right one.

Don’t forget that the attitude and energy you put into a relationship is what the other person perceives and responds to.

 

 

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